A goal is a desired result or possible outcome that a person envisions, plans, and commits to achieve. As important as they say setting goals are, I am guilty of not always doing so. Although, there was a time that I didn’t know how to set goals in my life; I didn’t know how to follow a plan. Now I have made it a habit now to set both long and short term realistic goals and executing them. Setting a goal is like designing a map of your life. Whether is being for a long road trip or a short one. It can be a list, a paragraph, or visuals (vision board).
In life as we navigate through trying to get to our destination we tend to encounter road blocks and obstacles on the way, both expected and unexpected. Setting short term goals along the way will help keep you on the right track. I (like many of us) had a plan for my life and I must say, that what I had planned 10 years ago is not where I am. I stumbled upon many obstacles, many with lessons that has helped me to build a whole new path for my life. I am not the same person I was all those years ago, as I grew my outlook on life and the people in it changed. I constantly add to my short term goals and cross off as I accomplish; approaching my ultimate goal.
I get that things don’t always go as planned and sometimes road blocks tend to break us down taking hits on our self esteem and confidence. But we must always remember that you have to keep going no matter what! There is no greater triumph than accomplishing what you set out to do; fulfilling your purpose. Achieving your goals and checking off the things on your short term list will give you such a great feeling and does wonders for your confidence. That alone will give you the push you need to continue on your journey, and when you encounter those hard patches in the road remember the feeling you had when you completed something. But you cannot do this for others, your goals need to be just that, YOUR goals. If you base your goals and achievements on others it will only cause you to feel lost and unfulfilled. So start on compiling your goals! make an event out of it, girls/boys night or even a vision board party.
Following my post on fear I planned on writing about motivation; something needed every now and then. But this past week has been a little off for me; I found myself needing motivation to make it through my days. Recently I’ve been waking up feeling off and my days have been feeling longer than usual. I haven’t been in the mood to do much of anything including going to the gym and even writing. I didn’t want to write about motivation when I wasn’t feeling too motivated myself. But I realized this is the perfect time to talk about motivation. I tend to feel this way when when I am overwhelmed, I put a tremendous amount of pressure on myself to accomplish things that it sometime starts to stress me even when I don’t feel stressed. But I try to constantly remind myself that I am an inspiration to someone, somewhere (My moto).
So I ask, what motivates you on an off day? If your a parent I’m sure your first answer will be your kids. Sounds about right, my son is my motivation on my off day. I keep pushing because of him; I wake every morning for him and think of him before making any decisions in life. But he is not my only motivation, and your kids cannot be your only motivation. Knowing that I have a purpose and that God has so much in store for me. I can’t settle for anything less than greatness for myself. I can’t let God down. You have to find something besides your children that will keep you pushing everyday. But staying motivated is the ultimate challenge. Smiling through it all and, pushing through.
On an off day I continue to stay inspired in various ways. This may sound corny but I think positive thoughts. Speaking things into existence; I wasn’t always like this but I try my hardest to stay consistent. Working out also helps, it assists in clearing my mind and working all that negative energy out. So after this off week I went back to the gym to work that negativity out. Praying and inspiring no matter what on a daily basis. Motivate yourself on any day!
Please let me know if this post or any post has helped you!
Hi everyone! One of the many questions I receive the most about my natural hair is what products I use or what is my regimen. Well I decided to dish on a few of my top products that I am currently using. Remember that not all products will work for everyone, it is up to you to try products and decide which ones work better for your hair. One important thing I will tell you is to NOT get overwhelmed trying to use or buy every single product out there or what you see on tutorials. That was one of my mistakes when I first started my natural hair journey; I got so overwhelmed and used so many products that I didn’t know which ones were actually working on my hair. It is important to isolate products and see which ones work best for your hair type.
- Organic Coconut Oil- This is my holy grail! I swear by it and love it. I use it in my spray bottle with water when I want to refresh my curls, i use it after a wash and sometimes before, and even sometime in my deep conditioner.
- Shea Moisture- I haven’t used all their products but I absolutely love the Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Style Milk for my twist outs. I also like to use the Jamaican Castor Oil Strengthen Grow & Restore Shampoo and hair serum. the shampoo is great for build up because it has apple cider vinegar already in it, and the serum has peppermint which I love.
- OGX Coconut Water Shampoo- I just started using this shampoo (three times so far), I even bought the travel size to try. It smells great and has my hair feeling so soft after my washes.
- Aphogee Keratin & Green Tea Reconstrucurizer- When I tell you I use this after EVERY wash…I absolutely do. When I first started using it my hair suffered from heat damage and it has worked to help strengthen my hair.
- Carol’s Daughter Hair Milk and Curls Blueberry Bliss Twist-N- Shout Cream- I just started using these products on my hair, again I got the small sizes at Target because I wanted to try them out. I finally gave my coconut hibiscus hair milk a rest to try these two products out and they have my twist outs poppin! Or on fleek..whatever the new term is now.
These are my current products that I am using, I like to switch it up from time to time. I also like to try new products out. I know there are so many new ones that I cant wait to try. I would love to hear what products you Naturals use or if there is a product you would like me to try out and provide a review on please let me know!
“When I dare to be powerful- to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid”
This quote is so powerful to me, I have it written in my journal so whenever I open it up I HAVE to read it. My strength is made from my weakness and I have to remember always how powerful I am. We tend to lose ourselves due to the fear that lives within us. I too am a victim of this. I suffer from fear of failure. I would always start something but never made it to the finish-line because I was too afraid of failing. I sometimes called myself a version of Lynn from the TV show “Girlfriends” because I have all these ideas and start them for a short period of time, then I would get overflowed with thoughts of failure which would cause me to quit. I couldn’t commit to anything. Before I knew it 10 years had gone by and I felt extremely unfulfilled. My number one excuse was my son; that I couldn’t afford to take any chances because if I failed then it would affect him greatly. Which honestly is a bunch of bull, but the sad thing is I started believing that in my mind. But I had to realize that it didn’t make any sense to teach my son to follow his dreams when I’m not. I had to be living it as well. I don’t want him to grow up making safe choices and not be happy because he grew up watching me do the same.
We can’t let the fear of what could go wrong keep us from what we want, instead we should get excited about all the things that could go right! We don’t understand that allowing our dreams to just take up space in our minds and hearts will only cause regret to over-power everything. We have to believe in the power that we hold within us. I suggest setting short term goals. If you can create a map of whatever your dream is and set a list of goals and a timeline to reach that dream. That will help build your confidence and your vision. Or even create a bucket list of all the things that you’ve always wanted to do but fear got in the way, starting small, I’m not saying jump straight in and going bungee jumping! Make sure you are comfortable with these goals. Prayer, fasting and meditating helped me tremendously. Just think how much better this world would be if everyone was living out their dreams
So I always kind-of wanted to go natural but never really had the guts to do it. I was a creamy crack baby who loved my wash and wraps, it was easy and painless. I would spend my whole Saturday at the salon like most women and I got tired of it but I did it. That was until I felt that I was depending too much on my relaxer; my hair seemed healthy and was getting long but to me it was thinning. My last relaxer was September 2013, trust me it was not planned, when it came time for me to relax my hair again I decided not to. I originally wanted to stretch it out as long as I could but the longer I went the more I didn’t want to relax it. Before I knew it I was transitioning! Let me tell you…transitioning was thee hardest thing to do; when I tell you I had the bad hair days and everyday I contemplated relaxing it. But I refused to do the big chop because I felt that I had an apple head; so I stuck it out.
Countless days of big frizzy hair and the two textures clashing, boy boy boy! What saved me was the protective styles; braids helped with growth and oil helped keep it soft and strong. But fast forward 3 1/2 years later I am so proud and happy with my hair. Having natural hair has made me feel a little more comfortable in my skin because I was always known for having the straight long hair so this was very different. So if you are thinking about going natural and don’t have the guts to do, I say take that leap and you will be happy you did. There are no limits on what you can do with your hair and I now do my own hair which saves me so much money. I only go to the salon for trims. Being a Naturalista was the best decision I made and I am proud that I took that leap and left the creamy crack alone.
Hi everyone and welcome to my blog! I wanted you all to get to know me and the reason I decided to start this blog. Well, I have always enjoyed writing and getting my thoughts out but that fire in me faded after years and years of not pursuing it. I am the mother of a 9 year old son (sun), and once I became a mother that became my only priority and the only fire that was lit inside of me. Being the best mother I could be was the only thing I focused on; and providing a stable life for him. I stopped going to school because I had to work juggle everything. I eventually lost myself in it and lost my passion and forgot who I was outside of being a mother/daughter/sister/girlfriend. But! this year I have been on a mission to get back to my passion again. So after much prayer and fasting here I am! This is just a stepping stone for me so please join this journey as you follow me on this blog of my life and I hope you enjoy my good and bad days but I promise you it will be nothing short of positive vibes.